I will give my children everything that they need and I will certainly sacrifice so that they can be happy, healthy and well cared for. I always think to buy things for them before myself. I feed Liam nutritious and carefully prepared meals while I eat Ramen noodles for lunch. I struggle with putting myself first but I really feel that it is unhealthy for the kids to come first every moment of every day. If there is not enough pie for everyone perhaps I will share a slice with Dad. If I do let them have the pie, I think I may mention that I do like pie and I would like some next time. Stuff like this sets us up to feel like failures. It's not fair to expect us to always take a back seat and never put ourselves first. Plus, it's not good for our kids. Kids need happy parents who do what makes them feel good too. Parenting is a selfless endeavor and the kids should and do come first but no one can be 100 % selfless. I have to remind myself of this often. I would rather be a happy mom than a martyr and I am sure that is what my boys would prefer as well.
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